Is sleep time a constant struggle?
The truth? You’d do anything to get more sleep right now..
The problem? You feel like you’ve already tried it all..
Well, mama, let's talk
You absolutely adore this beautiful new life you’ve brought into the world–and you’re willing to do almost anything to make sure s/he gets what s/he needs.
But when your ‘morning’ starts with crying in the middle of the night–for months and months on end…
Or when you’re on day 10 or 12 of multiple nighttime wakeups…
Or when you can’t even enjoy a single glass of Rose on the couch without a toddler crawling out of bed and into your lap or an infant crying from the next room...
It’s easy to resort to feeling helpless–and hopeless–and wonder if you’ll ever get your nights (and mornings–and heck, days!) back.
Life for a new mama (or a new mama...for a second, third or fourth time) is stressful enough.
But when your new little love isn’t sleeping well (or at all) on top of everything else, it can be downright daunting.
And at this point, you’ve heard it all.
“It’s probably the food. Try giving him solids before bed.”
“You know, she really should be sleeping through the night by now…”
Don’t get me wrong: You want to do what’s best for your baby, but sometimes you find yourself headed down the path of least resistance and nursing your little one back to sleep, spending hours consoling him with rocking and lullabies and all his favorite sleep time toys–or even bed-sharing (even though it’s not ideal).
You keep telling yourself you’ll get around to finding another (hopefully more effective) sleep training method–in the morning.
But by the time morning rolls around–and you’re actually able to roll yourself out of your cozy bed–you’ve lost all motivation for pretty much anything.
And the daytime isn’t any better: Between naps that don’t actually happen and feeding that feels neverending, you never quite get to relax, unwind or recover.
And by the time 6 or 7pm approaches...the battle to even get your little one to sleep in the first place starts all over again.
And so it continues. On and on and on–for days, weeks or months at a time.
You know what I mean?
Trust me: I get it. You’re struggling. Your exhaustion is next level. And your poor baby isn’t learning the sleep and self-soothing skills you know he needs to know.
And it’s affecting the whole family.
Because your lack-of-sleep isn’t just preventing you from doing the little things you have to do–like, clean the house, whip up homemade tacos for Taco Tuesday, get dressed in real clothes (although that one’s debatable)...
It’s also preventing you from doing the things you want to do–like, catch up on your shows without interrupted,, take a hot bath with that new Lush bath bomb, even go out and socialize (although your friends have become a little hard to be around with their comments like, "You could try this!” or "Have you tried that?" and the always-flattering, "You look so exhausted.”)
Yep, just about everything feels like a battle these days.
A battle between you and the baby and bedtime.
A battle between you and your partner (who–while well-meaning, doesn’t always take over, even when it’s “his night.”)
And even a battle between you and your parents or in-laws (because everybody has an opinion).
You’re seriously starting to wonder if you’re doing something wrong.
Because all the other new moms seem fine with all this!
They want to bed share.
They don’t mind nursing the whole night.
And some don’t even care about letting their kiddo cry it out (while your heart breaks if yours even makes a peep).
Other moms seem to chalk all this up to #momlife–and then, move on with their #momlives.
They wear their “Tired like a Mother” t-shirts with an air of pride.
And while you’d secretly love to be one of them….
...You know something needs to change.
The bottom line?
You truly want to be the best mom you can be.
You truly want to give your little one exactly what he or she needs to develop into a self-sufficient human.
...But you also truly want to sleep.
And you’re (finally) ready to do whatever it takes to make that happen.
GOOD NEWS: THERE IS ANOTHER WAY!
Say goodbye to the bedtime battle and hello to Attached to Sleep
Attached to Sleep
Featuring Bethany's gentle sleep training method.
Attached to Sleep is a DIY video program just for moms like you that walks you step-by-step through a security and comfort based interval approach to sleep training that effectively teaches young children how to sleep. (Like, through the whole night.).
From infants to toddlers (up to age 6+), the method taught inside Attached to Sleep works–gently–to sleep train your child without sacrificing the sacred child-parent bond you’ve worked so hard to build.
The truth is, research has shown that not responding to the cries of our children can create other issues for us down the road.
That's why the method presented in this program approaches sleep training in a calm, comforting and secure way. (Which might involve some tears at first, but also involves setting your special little someone up with positive sleep skills for life.)
During Attached to Sleep, you’ll receive access to a series of videos and PDFs where I personally guide you through sleep training your little one, so you understand exactly why and how to do it in a way that sticks–without sacrificing your bond.
From sleep training prep (including sleep space and whether your child is actually ready for sleep training) to security and comfort to positions and locations and temperature to how to create a bedtime routine that works, you’ll learn it all. (There’s even a parent’s toolkit that includes tools to use to soothe your child once bedtime is underway and a module specifically on self-care for parents of small children: aka, you.)
And even better? Attached to Sleep is as flexible as it is gentle. I understand how cut-and-dry other sleep training programs are–and how much it can hurt as a mother to do things that go against your instinct just because someone else told you you should. With Attached to Sleep, you’re always in the driver’s seat. There are no hard and fast rules–only a flexible framework backed by scientific research and thousands of personal experiences.
Just imagine what life will be like when sleep (and nap) time is no longer a battle–for you or your little.
- Bed time is predictable. You know exactly how to get your baby to sleep around the same time every single night. No one fights, because everyone knows what’s coming. S/he isn’t upset (and throwing a tantrum–or all his or her Paw Patrol toys) about going to bed, because they know how to listen to their own bodies and feel when they're tired. (In fact, many moms say that after Attached to Sleep, their toddlers come up to them and say, "It's time for bed, Mom." Talk about a #momwin!)
- Your baby will fall–and stay–asleep. You’ll learn exactly how to put the days of persistent catnapping and multiple mid-night wake ups to rest, and help your babe get a full night of Zzz’s. Like, every night.
- Your little will develop healthy long-term sleep habits. These healthy sleep skills will follow your little one throughout life–so sleeping soundly should never be an issue, and insomnia, nighttime fears and other issues just.won’t.happen.
- You get more sleep–and more of your life back. Yes, you adore your child and that goes without saying. But just imagine what you could do with all the extra time (and energy) you’ll have once your baby finally starts sleeping “like a baby” (and BTW–whoever made up that phrase clearly didn’t have a restless baby, am I right?). Just imagine being able to keep the house in livable order (aka not trip over building blocks or pacifiers) and meal prep for the week during the day because you’re not exhausted. Or take that epsom salt bath (complete with glass of wine) you’ve been not-so-literally dreaming about, without worrying that the baby's going to wake up any second. Or even get gussied up and head out for date night with your love and not freak out over whether the babysitter will be able to put the baby to sleep. Ahhh, freedom.
Hi, I’m Bethany Jacobs, owner of Latched & Attached and the instructor of Attached to Sleep.
I'm a sleep consultant (and mother of 2) with a passion to redefine postpartum. And over the past 3 years, I’ve helped hundreds of families go from exhausted to rested–in a matter of days.
Here’s my story: When I was first raising my son, I tried it all–from “Cry it Out” to co-sleeping (and kicking my husband out of OUR bed), but nothing ever felt quite right. I eventually wound up sleep deprived and teetering on the brink of a breakdown. (Because as a mama who was sensitive to anxiety and depression before baby, I definitely struggled post-baby.)
That’s why I worked tirelessly (literally ;) ) to personally develop a unique method of sleep training that not only works, but works gently. The Attached to Sleep method caters to the security and attachment that your little one has to you. And? It also empowers YOU as the mother to take what you like–and leave the rest.
Seriously: I believe nobody knows your child and family like you do. In my world, mama knows best. And while I value value sleep like whoa, I value that parent-child bond more than any amount of Zzz’s. And I’m guessing you feel the same if you're here!
All that said, Attached to Sleep is designed to give you the scientifically-backed framework (and all my expert knowledge on everything sleep)–and from there, also gives you the freedom to make your own choices.
‘Cause like I always say, I’m the expert in sleep, and you’re the expert in your child.
And the Attached to Sleep method is where we come together to give your child the gift of a healthy lifetime of sleep.
Attached to Sleep is all about #youdoingyou, mama–and you getting your life (and sleep!) back, too.
Getting more sleep will definitely be the best part of this program, but there are some nice perks too...
Step by step guides for gentle sleep training at different phases as well as the answers to all the common sleep troubles/mishaps through the process
You will always be encouraged to trust your gut and follow your instincts. This is more of a compass than a map, but a compass that won't fail you!
Lifetime Access to the Attached to Sleep Program. Whenever you need it, it will be there.
What does the program itself include?
A complete curriculum dedicated to helping you understand the Attached to Sleep gentle sleep training method.
Video tutorials and explanations from Bethany to help answer common questions and address topics in more detail.
Print outs and step-by-step guides to help you through the process of sleep training.
Quiz to help you determine if your child is ready for sleep training and, if not, what you can look for.
Self-paced, no rush program that you can jump into quickly or as slowly as you want upon the readiness of you and your child, with lifetime access.
Bethany's individual tips and tricks for success through every step of the process.
Library of downloadable resources and recommended products list to cover you for everything sleep including video resources from experts in their field.
Exclusive videos: interviews, tutorials and guidelines given to you by experts in their field!
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The Attached to Sleep Program is for you if...
You need more sleep and you're ready for change!
You enjoy connection, security and bond between you and your little one and don't want sleep training to change that.
You don't know much about sleep training and it's benefits, but you're interested in learning more.
You're okay with your little one having a separate sleep place, whether in their own room or a shared room.
You don't want to leave your little one to cry it out or learn to sleep.
You want your little one to develop healthy sleeping habits.
You value support, research based models and practically.
You feel like you've tried everything and nothing has worked.
This course is NOT for you if...
You don't want/need more sleep
You aren't willing to give up co-sleeping or bedsharing just yet.
You don't want to consider or you're not open to the different styles of sleep training.
You can't commit to being consistent with your little one.
You have a child that has health concerns (have a conversation with your doctor about sleep training first!)
You'd rather just use the cry it out method (no guidance necessary).
You aren't open to making little changes in your day that could make huge changes at night.
You already know all the answers when it comes to sleep and you don't need someone else's help.
What other moms have to say...
So I just got around to really reading the content and watching the videos and it all makes sense. I have had to put Michael to bed for the last week because he won't let my husband do it. Tonight, we tried your suggestions and voila! Before, we were chalking it up to him being a Mama's boy but your videos helped me make the connection. It only took one day, I'm a believer! - (Michaela, PA)
When you can have a glass of wine again and not fear middle of the night waking. If you are thinking about utilizing Bethany Jacobs for sleep coaching I highly recommend it! Her plan for our STUBBORN 11 mo old not only worked, but we were comfortable with it (and wasn't as harsh as cry it out). This first time momma needed some help! I didn't realize how many questions I would have along the way. It was amazing to have such a great resource and support through every scenario that popped up during the process - ear infections, teething, weaning, dairy sensitivity. There was an improvement even after the first night and steadily there after. So nice to enjoy some time to myself, with my husband, or a glass of wine at the end of the day again, and of course life with sleep again (and my daughter is a happier baby too). My husband thought I was crazy but the best $ we spent and he doesn't deny it! Haha - (Lauren, MA)
I used to nurse Sadie to sleep, try and put her in the crib and sneak out ninja style. Never worked. So we ended up just bringing Sadie to our bed and nursing her to sleep which meant this mom got NO sleep. I finally contacted Bethany and started a plan. To be honest I thought these tips are too simple and no way it's going to work. I stuck with it and guess what, it worked! Now I have a baby who tries to crawl into her crib at nap time. Bedtime is a breeze! Literally Bethany saved my sanity, my marriage, and sleeping is one less thing I needed to stress about. My girl loves her sleep now and that is such a blessing!!!! - (Jodi, SC)
Our baby girl was struggling with sleep so I reached out to Bethany. She listened to my story, asked me questions to get an idea of what we were dealing with, and she came up with a personalized plan for us. Once we implemented the plan, our little one was sleeping like a champ. She went from short, sporadic naps during the day and waking every 1-2 hours at night, to taking 2 hour naps twice a day and only waking one time at night. She is so much happier now, and we are so very thankful for Bethany's help! - (Christa, FL)
Having Bethany as a sleep consultant single handedly changed my family's life. Because of her knowledge and expertise we have a child who sleeps through the night and wakes happy! She was so professional and listened to what our concerns were and tailored our sleep training to meet our needs. We went into the training feeling very comfortable because of Bethany. I have, and will continue to, highly recommend her for any sleep related issues one might have with their child! - (Jamie, MA)
Including Bonus Videos from...
Board Certified Pediatrician
Dr. Seth Linakis, MD
Sleep, Sleep Training & Safety
Listen in as board certified pediatrician Dr. Seth Linakis, MD answers FAQs about sleep and sleep safety–and digs into why sleep is so important for our children.
Kristen Beeler, M.ED, ED.S, NCSP
Sleep and Development
Sleep is important for development, but so is security and attachment. (This is the reason #attachedtosleep was developed!) In this video, Kristen talks all about the importance of both for the proper development of our children.
Sensory Preference and Sleep
Learn all about how sensory preferences–like a heavier blanket or a softer one–can affect children's sleeping habits, and how we can incorporate that knowledge into sleep training.
Baby Yoga and Relaxation
Watch and learn as Jillian Brittany shares some baby yoga–a great add-on to any bedtime routine to help calm baby and (bonus!) helps get any gas out before bed.
Essential Oils and Bedtime
Learn all about how to incorporate essential oils (every #newmama’s fave) into baby’s bedtime, including what’s safe (and not safe) to do and how to apply (and not apply) oils at bedtime.
Available on all devices
Attached to Sleep is available wherever you are. Just load up the program on your mobile phone, tablet or PC/Mac and get started.
If you have an iPhone, you can download the dedicated iOS app from the app store.
Note: This app is currently in development and is not created by us.
To lay it all out there...
Unlimited lifetime access to the Attached to Sleep program, a gentle sleep training method that works.
Access through Teachable website and/or app compatible with mobile devices.
In depth curriculum with videos, print outs, worksheets, guides and more.
Full gentle training sleep plan with step by step instructions customized to the sleep stage of your child.
Parent's toolkit for successful sleep training.
Section of the curriculum devoted to managing sleep training (and all aspects of it) as a parent.
Recommended (but never required) products that can help children and the sleep time process.